Dealing with difficult situations is something we all have to do from time to time and what may seem difficult for one person is sometimes really easy for others to deal with.
Lets look at some situations so you know what I am talking about. One thing most people find difficult to deal with is confrontation and how we respond can either make the situation worse or better. There are also those situations where we make a decision and it is the decision which can turn a tricky situation into a difficult one.
One thing I have learned more than anything else is we can determine the outcome by the way we respond to the event. I was involved in an accident where I was hurt due to someone else and their lack of care, this could easily of been a difficult situation, the way I responded to the incident ensured it was much easier.
Most of us fear difficult situations and to that matter any conflict or uncomfortable situations too. For me I am also like that, or at least I was. I now understand, that the way we deal with these situations is what determines how we label them.
The situations themselves are just that, situations and if that is the way we look at them then we find the difficulty has been removed. Also most of the time it is the emotion which is attached with the particular event which can turn them into a problem.
If you break down the event into what is real and what isn’t, then deal with what is real from a point of logic and fact we soon find that the difficulty has been removed and now we have facts and a plan to change things, I am sure you will be able to do this with some practice.
Most of the time you will find opportunity lies in wait for us and the door sits right next to difficulties. How often have you gone through a tough time only to find that you come out of it in much better shape and with a huge smile because what you found was a path to opportunity.
Whenever you are finding yourself facing something that you find difficult, unpleasant or uncomfortable, take my advice and look for that opportunity which is lurking near by. This is going to do two things, firstly you will find yourself looking for opportunity and secondly, you will be giving the difficulty much less attention.
If you are anything like me you will find that the things we give attention to are the things which grow within us, so if you want opportunity then give it attention, this also changes how you look at difficult situations.